Recognize the characteristics of Toxic Parenting | Tebuireng Online

In every family, it must have different principles. Included in parenting parents who play an important role in order to shape the child’s character and personality. Parents always want to give the best for their children. But not many parents know that the ambition to give the best for the child is part of Toxic Parenting.

There is a full intention that according to parents very good can bring a negative impact. Good according to parents is not necessarily good in the child. Because in life, children will live. Indeed the role and support of parents is very important. However, it is not coercion given by parents but input or suggestions when the child is confused or not knowing where the direction will step.

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According to the writings of Adhenda Madarina that had been reviewed by Dr. Damar wahita and has been updated on the hellosehat.com page, Toxic parenting is the application of parenting parents that refer to bad behavior and adversely affect children, both mentally and physically.

Overprotective parents, have a high expectation of children, selfishness with the best pretext for children is also toxic parenting. Or also too interfere with the child’s affairs, so that the child becomes stressed and cannot make his own choices. And also parents who too allow their children to determine their own choices so that children lose their direction and behave as they please.

Because, all the senatu which is toxic parenting will become a disease, and this will be curved from generation to generation. Therefore we must understand and recognize the characteristics of this Toxic Parenting so that we can improve and study parenting better.

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1. Often blame children

Continue to blame the child for all the bad things in the family so as to make the child grow into a timid person because it is made guilty. Blame the child for failing not to reach the target that is given by parents. Can have a bad impact. Because sometimes children when they fail should be validated and given motivation so that children can provide results from these targets with enthusiasm and optimism.

2. Ignore the child

Parents are more likely and let children develop themselves. This kind of old person has a low parenting and response to children. So that children feel confused when faced with several choices in life. Because essentially the child still wants to be guided and given advice or advice from parents.

3. Give cruel criticism to children

It often happens if the achievement of children is not in accordance with the wishes of parents so that this child feels insecure. And if it continues it will cause emotions and stress.

4. Application of silent treatment

Harsh words are very painful, but if they stay more painful because the application of negative things has an impact on children who live as he pleases because they are not aware of the mistakes that have been made. Because, there is no good communication between parents and children. Whereas the communication of parents’ children is very important in the family so that children also feel cared for by parents

5. Bring up the costs given to children

This is often used as a foundation so that children want to change and follow the will of parents. Unconsciously that this will be a trigger for children to feel burdened. So that the child’s focus is divided by thinking about costs. Children who are supposed to focus on learning, are even divided by how to make money after school so they can support or not burden parents.

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And many other features. With us knowing these characteristics can make parents able to understand and understand that children also need good parenting in accordance with the child’s mental condition. Not all parents’ will must be fulfilled by the child. Because the child has a choice in his life

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Writer: Nabila Rahayu
Editor: Rara Zaryry